23 April 2010

A Week Doesn't Change Much

April 3, 2010

The time had come to take the brothers to their respective airports. It felt strange, like there hadn't been enough time. Derek & I didn't get to be grown up siblings together, drinking and painting the town. We've never gone out like he & Jesse did and while I had hoped for that, it was not to be during our 2010 reunion. Derek had important plans. He was off to Vegas.

I didn't feel like I'd had enough time with Ty either. I mean the kid needs guidance and he's obviously not getting it at home from his mom or on the phone from my dad. A week is not enough time to teach a kid to drink water, avoid processed foods or enjoy the outdoors. Of the (now) four of my father's children, he's at the largest disadvantage. Derek & I don't see much we can do about that, but we would like to try. Still, a week doesn't change much.

That Saturday, I dropped Derek of at SFO, then went back to bed for a few hours. Even though Ty had to be in LA that night, his mother was not scheduled to be there until 6. So we had some time. We ate. I packed. We went on a search for his lost cell phone (never recovered) and we hit the road. Jesse didn't come because he had to work Sunday. And without him, I could spend the night and return leisurely.

There wasn't anything noteworthy about the drive. We arrived at his hotel for the night right at 6. His mom was not there, but on her way. I fed him and we sat there and talked. I thought it was the perfect time to impart some inspiring wisdom, but I had none. I asked what he wants to be when he grows up. He said a billionaire. I asked him how he was going to make billions and he said "credit cards." I present to you the future of America ladies & gentlemen.

Ty's mom came, we said our goodbyes. I'm going to see him again in a few months and I'll let you know if he's learned any lessons. Personally, I've learned plenty. Being a parent / guardian / role model is hard work. It's active, not passive and takes everything a person has to offer. And the final product is a reflection of that. I think the visit set me back about 5 years on the "maybe we should have kids" scale.

~ Courtesy of my VZW Pinkberry
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