09 December 2008

A Day Without A Gay - Not OK

Tomorrow (10 December) is supposed to be a political statement against the passage of Proposition 8 here in California. Gays, lesbians, and I presume their supporters are supposed to "call out gay" from their jobs. Their also supposed to not buy anything. The idea behind "A Day Without A Gay" (again - presumably) is to show queer folk are a large part of the population. They help keep the economy going, they work in the same offices, teach in the same schools, and therefore deserve the right to marry one another. I get that. I agree with that. I do not support that.

I've been thinking about it all day. I voted against Prop 8. I think marriage is a spiritual thing between two people and who or whatever they worship. Meanwhile discrimination is ugly. It's wrong to tell a group it can't do something because of the unifying characteristics of its members. The same people who can be talked into denying marriage to a gay couple can probably be talked into preventing obese people from flying. I can hear them now "I believe a flight is a between one seat and one person who can fit inside of it comfortably." Supporting discrimination means it won't end. Still, I'm not behind this day without a gay, and I'm not sure why.

It could be that it reminds me of that day last year when all the supporters of illegal immigrants stayed home. Very few things get my blood going like illegal immigrants. Illegal is illegal and that's all I'll say about that. I do not want to associate the two causes, because to me, they are very different.

Or maybe it's the impact. Gay people are likely to shop in gay friendly businesses, work in gay friendly places, with (at least mostly) gay friendly coworkers. Avoiding stores that may be struggling in this economy will hurt the gay community. Staying home from work might hurt your gay friendly job and anger your overworked and gay friendly coworkers. Mormon money defeated Prop 8. Mormon finances will not be hurt by gays at work, or by gays at home. I think "A Day Without A Gay" hurts supporters of same sex marriage by making a point to the people who already get it.

So to my darling LGBT friends I say go out, be gay, show your spending power. And I'll see you at work tomorrow.

~ Danie D.
Courtesy of my Verizon PinkBerry


  1. Danie:

    I'll be at work, but economic boycotts are at the heart of any civil rights movement. Visibility or invisibility is key. I think we of the LGBT community and allies should have done this before the election.


  2. Two things:

    I believe this sort of thing will encourage the LGBT community to show their numbers. The more people who know someone they love is gay, the less apt they are to vote against their rights.

    Illegal is illegal, but the current system of immigration is seriously broken and needs reform. The marchers who took over the Strip that day weren't fighting for illegal immigration, but for much-needed massive reform.

    Hope you're loving SF. It's my second home.

  3. dear danie, you typed their instead of they're(3rd sentence). it feels good to finally catch YOU in the act of a grammatical mistake!